Overcoming Perfectionism: Breaking Free From the Illusion of Control

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Actionable Steps:

1. Catch the “All-or-Nothing” Voice.
   • When you hear, “If it’s not perfect, it’s worthless,” pause and replace it with: “Done is better than perfect.”
2. Set “Good Enough” Goals.
   • Instead of aiming for flawless, ask: “What’s the goal that moves me forward—even if it’s messy?”
3. Practice Failing Small.
   • Intentionally let yourself be imperfect in small things—a typo in a text, leaving the dishes. Notice that the world doesn’t end.
4. Shift from Outcome to Effort.
   • Journal one thing each day you’re proud of—not because of results, but because of the courage or effort it took.

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