On our podcast, That Sh*t Doesn't Define You, we tackle a powerful question: Does your past still control you? It's a question that many of us avoid because the answer can be painful. Childhood trauma, past experiences, and the stories we carry with us can profoundly affect how we show up in the world.
But here's the truth: Your past does not have to control your present or your future. It's possible to break free and create a new narrative that empowers you to live fully, confidently, and authentically.
In this episode, we're joined by Stacy McNeiland, a dedicated advocate for children who have experienced abuse and the founder of ROAR at The CARE Center. Stacy shares her personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and how she now helps others break free from the weight of their past. Together, we explore how to reclaim control, rewrite your story, and step into your full potential.
The Impact of Childhood Trauma
Childhood trauma can have lasting effects on the brain, body, and emotional well-being. Studies show that trauma can physically change the brain, particularly areas related to memory, decision-making, and emotional regulation.
In the episode, we discuss how Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can affect our ability to cope with stress, decision-making, and self-perception. These effects don't just impact children—they linger into adulthood, often causing behavior patterns like self-sabotage, perfectionism, or emotional dysregulation.
Stacy's work with the children at The CARE Center has shown her how early trauma can impact adults who haven't healed. It's not just about the physical scars—it's about the emotional and mental imprint that stays with you, affecting your choices and your relationships.
Rewriting Your Narrative: Breaking the Cycle of Trauma
One of the most powerful ways to reclaim your life is by rewriting the narrative you've carried with you for so long. Stacy shares how she used her own experiences to create a life focused on helping others heal.
But it wasn't a linear process. Healing isn't perfect, and it doesn't happen overnight. It's a continuous journey, and sometimes, you'll feel like your past still has a grip on you.
So, how can you break free from the cycle of trauma and start rewriting your story?
Here are a few actionable steps to take:
The first step to breaking free from your past is acknowledging it. You can't heal what you don't face. Start by writing down key moments from your past—the ones that still feel heavy or unresolved. Ask yourself:
By reflecting on the pain and recognizing the strength that came from those experiences, you begin the process of healing and growth.
Trauma often creates unconscious patterns of behavior, such as self-sabotage, avoidance, or perfectionism. These patterns are a way we cope with unresolved pain. Breaking just one of these patterns can be a huge step in reclaiming your power.
Trauma is stored in the body, affecting the nervous system and causing emotional dysregulation. Mindfulness practices like deep breathing or gentle movement can help calm the fight-or-flight response and create a sense of safety.
Shame and secrecy keep trauma alive. The more we keep things bottled up, the more power they have over us. Sharing your story with someone you trust—a friend, mentor, or therapist—helps release that power and creates connection.
Generational Trauma: Healing for Yourself and Future Generations
Generational trauma is a real and powerful force. It's passed down through behaviors, beliefs, and sometimes even biology. But you can break the cycle. By healing your wounds, you change your life and create a better future for the next generation.
You Have the Power to Break Free
It's time to reclaim your power and start rewriting your story. Your past may have shaped you, but it does not define you. By acknowledging your history, breaking free from limiting patterns, and healing from trauma, you create space for the life you were meant to live.
If you're ready to dive deeper into your healing journey and learn more about breaking free from your past, check out our latest podcast episode with Stacy McNeiland. She shares powerful insights into how to break the cycle of trauma and step into your true potential.
Start today—because nothing changes until you do. Let’s break free from the past and embrace the future you deserve.